|Posted on 17 August, 2016 at 11:00|
Self-belief in yourself is crucial, as it determines what you think you can and can’t do..right?
A lack of self-belief limits the things you do or even try to do. But if you start with the mindset of thinking ‘what’s the point’ or ‘you will only fail anyway’ then guess what happens? Yes it leads to poor results you were expecting.
Whereas if you have a strong self-belief in yourself you will be more empowered to take action and go on to produce better results.
In NLP there is a saying “Whether you think you can, or whether you think you can’t; you’ll be right”.
I think Henry Ford has a similar saying.
When you believe you can perform a task, you are more likely to succeed. And if you don’t get the result you were hoping for you will try again and again till you get it right.
Here are 4 things you must do to increase self-belief in YOU.
1) Be a Good Role Model to yourself to increase self-belief in you. Set the standard you want to live up to as an example first. Have a positive and encouraging attitude towards your life and everything you have, and everything you have achieved no matter how big or small. Work on nurturing this habit, a ‘can do attitude’. Once you do this your outer actions will naturally start to emulate your inner thoughts and beliefs.
2) Focus on the positives because in life we generally get more of what we focus on. Focus on how crap your life is and how your circumstances are crappier and you will get more of the same. Or you can focus on all the blessing you have that you probably take for granted (like having eyes to see with, clean water to drink, food to eat, a roof over your head, parents, children, your health, your body etc) and you will find you have a different outlook on the same life. Focus your attention on the positive behavior, instead of the negative, and you will get more of it. The choice of which one you choose is always down to you and as an automatic default setting we as humans are programmed to choose the negative. If we can focus attention on the positive first we can then deal with the negative behavior quickly and effectively. Become your own best friend and give yourself more positive feedback for the things you have done.
3) Being aware of your language is an important point. When you are talking to your best friend and they mess up you most likely show up with empathy and support, why? Because we can be very sensitive to things people say about us. BUT when we are talking to ourselves about the things we have messed up we probably say the kind of things that would probably make a sailor blush. We label ourselves as stupid, lazy, a failure, a complete dumba$ etc etc. Over time these labels start to be accepted as beliefs and get hardwired into our programming. Respond to your action and not yourself. “That was a stupid thing to do” rather than “you are so stupid”. And when you acknowledge the accomplishments of what you have achieved don’t just be flippant with your response of saying’ I’m the man/woman’, be specific on what you did that you are proud or happy with. Acknowledge the WHY.
4) Creating a compelling vision of your future will increase your self-belief by developing your vision that you can do.. what ever you set yourself to do. Sit down, close your eyes, and watch yourself on the screen of your mind behaving decisively, calmly and strongly. This powerful visualization exercise means that you can learn from yourself, how to be confident, have self-belief, and behave in ways which increases chances of success. Shakespeare said we are the play writers to our own lives. You are the director, the actor, the play writer. You have the remote control to the DVD player in your mind, you are in charge of what you see, what you hear and what you feel. By seeing yourself on your minds screen you will see yourself acting with the self-belief of any paid movie star. The more you do this, the more you will find yourself becoming like the confident character in the movies you watch.
Sincerely hope this content has been more useful than a chocolate fire guard, and if it has please feel free to share this with your friend and colleague.