SM3 Empowerment


 International Motivational Speaker 

Personal Development Coach 

Life Coach 

Business Coach

Personal Trainer & Author



If I can't coach you directly I still want to be able to add some value to you and your life so I have compiled some life and business Self Development articles to help do just that.

I sincerely hope you can take a golden nugget of information away from them.

But remember reading is one thing and if you don't do anything with the new found knowledge it is just Shelf Development.

The minute you implement the new found knowledge in your life you start your journey of Self Development my friend.


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Business Leaders & Executives

Posted on 23 May, 2017 at 6:10 Comments comments (4)

Dear Furure CEO / Company President

If you want to get more out of your team for any of these reasons:

=> Because the number of people in your team has been reduced and        yet you're expected to produce the same or better results. 

=> Your team is not producing the results that are expected from you          and your team and you're concerned that your boss and / or                  superiors and peers are not going to be happy about that.

=> Members of your team are undermining each other or worse                    undermining you, causing conflicts and frustrations for you and              you'd like to turn your team into a well-oiled machine.

Then, I'd like to help you squeeze the most out of your team as possible by offering you a special one-on-one "Modern Leadership Mastery Coaching Session".

During this session we will...

=> Create a crystal clear vision for the results that you want your team to      produce, for the way that you'd like your team to interact with each          other and for the kind of people you would like to have on your team.

=> Uncover hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your success          with leadership and team building.

=> You'll leave the session renewed, re-energised and inspired to create      a powerful results-driven team that gets things done so that you can      be the office hero and still have a flourishing personal life.

To claim this special coaching session simply email the office on [email protected] and answer the following questions:

1. How long have you been in this leadership position?

2. What are the biggest leadership challenges you're facing today?

3. On a scale of zero to 10 how important is it to you to get better results     from your team?

4. What are your ultimate aspirations and goals as a leader?

Be sure to also include your name and contact number on your email when you send your email so that someone from our office can get back to you and schedule your session within the next 24 to 48 hours.

All the best,


PS: The sooner you send us your answers, the more likely you are to            get a session.
       Email [email protected].


How To Make 2017 Your Defining Year

Posted on 13 January, 2017 at 10:10 Comments comments (0)

It's that time of year where people either set new years resolutions for the following year, or they are that fed up with not achieving the things they set out to year after year so they don't even bother making any because they probably think,


What's the point?!

Which one are you my friend?


As we come to the close of 2016 there may be things you didn't achieve, and there are some I didn't either so you are not alone.


BUT you have a choice to focus on what you didn't do verses what you did achieve.


The human mind's default setting is to highlight what went wrong...what you didn't do that you wanted to...what goals you missed etc etc that we forget to appreciate how far we have come...what small wins we have had along the way...what we have managed to accomplish in the year no matter how small or large.


For years, it was funny to see how many of my resolutions were being "recycled"-- every year I was writing the same things-- but obviously not accomplishing ANY!) Like lose some weight, grow my business, spend more time with the family, etc.


This year, a lot of these "recycled" resolutions have FINALLY been accomplished so I'm looking at writing "resolutions" that are brand new--to move me forward and help me grow.


So if you are where I was a few years ago-- in the "recycling" resolutions mode-- here are some tips on how I was able to finally break that cycle;


Make Your New Year Resolutions Clear: Losing weight is too broad. Be specific! How much weight do you want to lose? What size do you want to be? What are you willing to do to accomplish this goal? What BMI do you want? What pulse rate will let you know you are getting fitter?

By the way let me go on a quick rant on this said topic...


When have you ever been taught that losing is good? That if you had the choice of winning or losing your parents, teachers, friends, society told you that losing was what you should aspire to do??


That's right the answer is NEVER. So the language we use can and quite often does sabotage our success. Consciously we are saying one thing 'lose weight' but unconsciously we know losing is not good so there is a disconnect.


Focus on what you do want and then peel back another layer to the answer you come up with by then saying,


And why do you want that goal?

what does it give you?

When you have the answer rinse and repeat with the same questions until you ultimately come to the answer of how that goal will make you feel.


So when clients says I want to lose weight I will ask why do you want that goal.


Answers are generally,


So I can fit into that dress... so I can be a size I can be happy with what looks back at me in the mirror.

I then ask what other benefits would you get from achieving that, and interject things like what happens to your health and energy? Then what can you do with that new found health and energy? With this new energy level what effect will it have on you being able to play with your kids when you come back from work, your productivity levels at work or even your 'playfulness' with your partner in the bedroom department.


When a goal you are trying to achieve involves other people in your life you are more committed to not letting them down, but when your goal only revolves around you then you are a heck of a lot more likely to not stick with it because life may get in the way and you place other people's happiness higher than yours so think it's OK to 'park' your dreams and goals. Then get to the end of the year and wonder why you have not done the things you actually wanted to for yourself.


Identify How You Want to Feel: Many of us are clear on what we want-- but when we get it, we realize is NOT really what we wanted! Getting CLEAR on how we want to FEEL is a lot more productive-- as it opens up a wider space of creativity on how we will accomplish our goal.

Be Gentle: Don't try to CHANGE everything in the next 12 months. Ask yourself, what part of my life needs a bit of a makeover? What MVP (minimum viable project)-- would create a shift that would make a big difference? I am 41 and if I am to live to the age of 80 I still have 39 years left, so lets put things in perspective and understand I, like you, have a ton of time to achieve what ever I want ;-)

Let me offer you something that can help you. Write down what you will be celebrating December 2017. (Write it as if it was that day and you are celebrating in the present tense.)


Set it on your desk or a place where you will see it often. Make this what you strive to accomplish in the new year and watch your goals manifest!


As the holidays come to a close, it's time to start looking forward into 2017.


Now is the time to make a decision.


"It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped".

-Tony Robbins

Are you going to take 2017 and make it your best year ever?


Or are you going to keep doing the same thing you've been doing over and over again... getting the same results?


The answer to that question is within. You HAVE the power to control your destiny. You just have to unleash your inner power.


The only hero or heroine is YOU.


It's time to start playing that roll and it's time to make 2017 your best year ever!


“Do the thing and you will have the power.”

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Remember, you have greatness within!


P.S. Don't forget to join me over at my FB page where I'll be sharing the secrets to getting the freedom you deserve. Let's make sure 2017 the BEST year you have ever had!


Happy New Year!




Sm3 Empowerment

8 Simple Steps To Making 2017 Your Best Year Ever

Posted on 8 December, 2016 at 6:00 Comments comments (0)




What are you going to do to make 2017 better than 2016?


Remember Einstein’s definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again yet expecting a different result.


It’s time my friend to stop living the same year 75 times and calling it a life.


Let me share 8 simple and highly effective principles that the highly successful people use every year.


Here are the 8 steps:






Set up a great year ahead by first reviewing the current one.


“I set myself up for success in the New Year by pausing and reflecting”

- John Maxwell

An evaluated reflection turns experience into insight. So evaluate what you did so that you gain insight for what you should be doing in the New Year.


Collect accomplishments and magic moments in a journal—almost like saving up receipts for tax purposes.


At the end of the year go and review them all.


Look at the area of your businesses, your relationships, finance, health, family, socially, physically, mentally, spiritually.


By reflecting on these magic moments, you will be able to pull some principles and then determine what do you really want to make happen in the following year.






“The most important thing you can do at the beginning of a new year is leave the old year where it fell”.

- Jon Acuff

It’s good to learn from the year you just lived, but if you stare at it too long, regret over the opportunities you missed or mistakes you made will blossom.


Regret and negativity can kill our drive. Reviewing the magic moments, tells us that staying positive in this review process can help us move forward without losing momentum.


Do this by reviewing all your ‘wins’ for the prior year.


Too often we don’t recognize all the progress we’ve made and all the great stuff we’ve accomplished. Focusing on the wins, puts you in the positive state of mind to look forward and plan the next year.






In my journal I write down every good thing I can remember from the past year.


In that state of total gratitude I ask, ‘What do I most want to be thankful for one year from now?’ I write the answer down, and it becomes a focus for the new year.”


Research tells us that gratitude has a measurable effect on achieving our goals so it would seem that counting our blessings is a good way to start a great year. Then get into a habit of starting your day of with a couple of minutes of attitude of gratitude.


I set myself up for a great day by saying fifty things I’m grateful for, I find that taking time to count my blessings keeps my mind focused on helping others and achieving even more than last year.






Set yourself up for a great year by ruthlessly eliminating the bottom 30 percent of activities, projects, and commitments from the previous year.


By removing those from your calendar, you get space to focus on the activities with the biggest payoff.


By killing the under performing tasks and projects, It opens up all kinds of room for you to be more creative and innovative.






It’s about identifying what we achieved and what we enjoyed and then laying out of what we’re going to achieve and enjoy in the next year. Notice the importance of enjoyment here.


You have to intentionally stop and dream again.


What can you work on next year that makes you smile?


Then your mind automatically moves from the strategic to the tactical.


In detail—how can you organize your work and your life to do the things that cause that same smile?”






Start with a few big goals for the year, usually no more than three.


Then write them down and displays them in your home/office.


Break them down into four quarterly goals—which are good-sized wins on their own!—and then break those up into monthly goals.


This will enable you to stay focused on the long-term goals, while at the same time enjoying being ‘in the moment’ of achieving your short-term, monthly goals.


Once your goals are set, you resolve by cutting off all other options except what you wrote down for the next ninety days.


"Your day becomes your week, therefore it is your month and your year".

- Shiraz Mirza

Best years come from best efforts performed daily.






What gets scheduled gets done, I often say. Beyond that, scheduling also protects your time.


Here’s the reality: Everyone has an agenda. If you don’t declare yours by calendaring what’s what important to you, others will try to fit you into their agenda.


Answer the question,


‘What is the one thing I can do, such that by doing it, everything else will become easier or unnecessary?’


I’ve found the answer to this question brings tremendous clarity. It simplifies my ‘next steps.






There are some important side benefits in setting aside time as well. Unplugging makes room for others in ways that we can’t always plan.


So if you can do this daily through meditation, going for a walk, going on holiday find a way to make this a priority where you can switch off and recharge the batteries fully.




Here’s to your amazing 2017 my friend.


You are 100% in charge of making it happen, regardless of what ever circumstances you may face along the way.




Because life is not what happens to you, it is how you react to life that actually puts you in the driving seat.


So own it and stay empowered


Shiraz at Sm3 Empowerment

Instant confidence

Posted on 2 December, 2016 at 6:05 Comments comments (0)

If you want to increase your confidence quickly and naturally without coming across like an arrogant jerk... then read this carefully...

I use this and it's my favourite technique to use with clients for building long-term self confidence.


Here goes...


Add to Your "Confidence Bank"


What is your "Confidence Bank" you ask?

It's a list of your accomplishments that you are proud of.

Here's the key: Celebrate all your victories. Even the SMALL ones.

- Finished reading a book? ...add that accomplishment to your confidence bank

- Got out of bed without hitting snooze? ...put that in your confidence bank

- Exercised today? ...put that in your confidence bank

Building this list shifts your focus on your accomplishments, boosts your confidence, and keeps you from spiralling into negativity, doubt, and fear.

Just remember this final thought...

While ever your mind is thinking of something good, it can't think of anything bad at the same time. And the same is true the other way round, so keep remembering it is YOU that is in charge of your thoughts so chose to focus on the good ;-)

How Many Of These Top 10 Distortions Do You Use?

Posted on 22 November, 2016 at 6:50 Comments comments (0)

Cognitive Distortions - This is how we distort our experiences!


The language we use in everyday life both represents and impacts how we experience our world. We attempt to capture thoughts, ideas and to describe what we see around us using words. Inevitably, things get "lost in translation".


We lose information through "Generalizations", "Deletion" of information and "Cognitive Distortion". Distortion is where some aspects of ideas and experiences are given more weight and focus than others. We all do this both consciously and unconsciously, and how we do this provides pointers to our underlying beliefs about ourselves, others and the world.





Below is a list of the Top 10 Cognitive Distortions:


Which of these / How many do you do?




1. All or Nothing Thinking:


Seeing things as black-or-white, right-or-wrong with nothing in-between. Essentially, if I'm not perfect then I'm a failure.


I didn't finish writing that paper so it was a complete waste of time.

There's no point in playing if I'm not 100% in shape.

They didn't show, they’re completely unreliable!


2. Over Generalization:


Using words like 'always', 'never' in relation to a single event or experience.


I'll never get that promotion

She always does that…



3. Minimizing or Magnifying (Also Catastrophizing):


Seeing things as dramatically more or less important than they actually are. Often creating a "catastrophe" that follows.


Because my boss publicly thanked her she'll get that promotion, not me (even though I had a great performance review and just won an industry award).

I forgot that email! That means my boss won't trust me again, I won't get that raise and my wife will leave me.



4. Shoulds:


Using "should", "need to", "must", "ought to" to motivate oneself, then feeling guilty when you don't follow through (or anger and resentment when someone else doesn't follow through).


I should have got the painting done this weekend.

They ought to have been more considerate of my feelings, they should know that would upset me.



5. Labeling:


Attaching a negative label to yourself or others following a single event.


I didn't stand up to my co-worker, I'm such a wimp! Ÿ

What an idiot, he couldn't even see that coming!



6. Jumping to Conclusions:


1) Mind-Reading:


Making negative assumptions about how people see you without evidence or factual support.


Your friend is preoccupied and you don't bother to find out why. You're thinking:


She thinks I'm exaggerating again

or Ÿ


He still hasn't forgiven me for telling Fred about his illness.



2) Fortune Telling:


Making negative predictions about the future without evidence or factual support


I won't be able to sell my house and I'll be stuck here (even though housing market is good).

No-one will understand.

I won't be invited back again (even though they are supportive friends).



7. Discounting the Positive:


Not acknowledging the positive. Saying anyone could have done it or insisting that your positive actions, qualities or achievements don't count…


That doesn't count, anyone could have done it.

I've only cut back from smoking 40 cigarettes a day to 10. It doesn't count because I've not fully given up yet.



8. Blame & Personalization:


Blaming yourself when you weren't entirely responsible or blaming other people and denying your role in the situation.


If only I was younger, I would have got the job

If only I hadn't said that, they wouldn't have…

If only she hadn't yelled at me, I wouldn't have been angry and wouldn't have had that car accident.



9. Emotional Reasoning:


I feel, therefore I am. Assuming that a feeling is true - without digging deeper to see if this is accurate.


I feel such an idiot (it must be true). Ÿ

I feel guilty (I must have done something wrong).

I feel really bad for yelling at my partner, I must be really selfish and inconsiderate.



10. Mental Filter:


Allowing (dwelling on) one negative detail or fact to spoil our enjoyment, happiness, hope etc


You have a great evening and dinner at a restaurant with friends, but your chicken was under-cooked and that spoiled the whole evening.


Only A Certain Type Of Person Believes In Luck

Posted on 4 November, 2016 at 7:20 Comments comments (0)

You have to take courageous decisions to design your life. Designing something new to keep you moving forward.


Whenever a person or a company emerges from the crowd and shines, onlookers are quick to attribute that to 'good luck', 'in the right place at the right time', ...right?


BUT the person doing the achieving counters that with,


"It's a product of some talents but a lot of hard work!"


Luck is the residue of design and hard work. Are you planning for it?


Grasp your moment, your opportunity, otherwise you will look back with regret. Your moment will have come and gone.





My father was a doctor, even though he grew up in poverty in Pakistan where his parents would go without food just so their children could eat. All four of my father's brothers followed their father and became factory workers, but not my father.


Was that luck? NO!


Was it the result of hard work? HELL YES!!


When you start on your road of opportunity you will have 'nay-sayers' around you. You will have people trying to kill your dream. You will be given every reason why your idea can't work and won't work. You will have your self confidence undermined.


Being an under-dog is so invigorating.


Nobody ever accomplished anything by believing the 'Nay-sayers'


It's those who travel the road less traveled that create new industries, invent new products, make an impact on the world, leave a legacy and inspire others to be the best they can be.


Shallow men believe in luck. Strong men believe in cause and effect.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

We Are The Lucky Ones

Posted on 10 October, 2016 at 5:20 Comments comments (0)

Richard Dawkins - We Are The Lucky Ones

"We are going to die, and that makes us the lucky ones."

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Put Off Procrastinating Until After You Reach Your Goal

Posted on 4 October, 2016 at 6:10 Comments comments (0)

There are lots of things that will stand in your way in your efforts to reach your goal. If you’re not careful, you will be one of them.

Of all the ways that you can stand in your own way, procrastination is one of the most common. Procrastination is an intentional delay to do a task at hand when there is no rational reason for it. It can be your worst enemy.

What does it look like? Well, sometimes it looks like videos of kittens on Facebook. Other times, it looks like work. But it’s not the work that needs to be done. Procrastination can be the decision to clear out your inbox when you should be writing a report that is tough to get a handle on.

People procrastinate when they are faced with a task that they don’t want to do. Either it’s unpleasant or it’s difficult or it takes too much time. People who are impulsive or easily distracted procrastinate in reaction to some stimulus that attracts them.

But don’t be discouraged. Procrastination can be overcome. And you can do it. The first step is to be aware of it. Pay attention to your work habits. If you are distracted, wasting time, or not doing the task at hand, take action about it.

One way to get back to work is the Pomodoro technique. Set a kitchen timer for 25 minutes. Then tackle a chunk of the work you need to do that day. Work without stopping until the timer goes off, then take a three to five minute break. When your break is over, set the timer for 25 minutes and start all over again. After you have done four sessions, take a longer break – say 10 to 15 minutes. It’s a very effective technique for some people because you have downtime built in to your schedule.

Of course, you need to eliminate distractions. If the internet, your email, or your phone keeps grabbing your attention, just find a way to put it away so that you can concentrate on your work.

Having an accountability partner can help, too. Make a bargain that each of you will make a certain amount of progress on your goals by the time you meet again. Then you’ll feel honor-bound to be productive in the meantime.

Don’t be your own worst enemy. Don’t stand in the way of your progress towards your goal. Monitor your work habits. If you find that you are procrastinating, take action against it. And don’t put it off. Do it now!




5 Steps To Growing Your Confidence

Posted on 21 September, 2016 at 7:55 Comments comments (0)

Do the following word describe you, Awkward, shy, indecisive?

Or are you the opposite and over compensate for your lack of confidence to hide it from the world?


Do you often interpret passive comments by attaching more meaning to them than what they really need?


Is Pessimism Avenue a road you frequently visit in your mind?


Well how would life look by having a stronger self-confidence and a more honest sense of your own self-worth?


Here are five quick steps you can take to build your self-confidence. They are like going to the gym. Go once or twice in the month, or even now and then in the year, when you can fit it in, then don’t expect to look like some Greek Adonis God.


Muscle gets strengthen by repetition, repetition and repetition. Likewise your confidence will get stronger by the following steps being practised over and over and over.


And as a result just like your muscles that have memory cells your confidence will be locked into your way of being.




Step 1: Highlight your strengths instead of your weaknesses.


Low self-esteem is an inside job (a bit like false flag operations most recent of which being 9/11) which starts inside your own head. It is a result of what you focus on, what you think, say and feel about yourself.


Start acknowledging yourself for the things you do accomplish, journal in all the small wins you have in your day, your week, your month and I guarantee you will surprise yourself when you reflect on them at the end of the month.


Our programming and conditioning automatically have us focusing only on the mistakes we make, and with the Law of the Universe you tend to get what you think about.




Step 2: Get out of your-self preserving bubble and take some risks.


Life is full of possibilities unless you are sitting at home watching Jeremy Kyle, or have your face stuck in your smart device catching up on the salacious headlines or local gossip of Face Book.


Reframe your current thinking and see change as good, look for ways to step out of your comfort zone and get involved in something where you could win or lose.


When you can look beyond your small view of yourself and take chances all kinds of possibilities will come your way. Fail a couple of times, learn from them and then get back up again. You’ve been conditioned to believe failing is bad and so avoid trying to be knocked down, not realising every time you have been knocked down in the past and you eventually got back up you have become a little stronger as a result.


So the knock down was actually a good thing really wasn’t it? But I bet your focus was on how others perceive you after seeing you fall instead of how you have got little stronger by it.






Step 3: Change your self-talk.


If you were to Catch Yourself Thinking I bet most of the stuff you say to yourself is negative.


Imagine your best friend or close family member or loved one has made a mistake, and make a note of the tone and the words you would use in that scenario.


You would most likely be empathetic, caring and have words of encouragement...right?


BUT when you do something wrong I am willing to take the Pepsi challenge with anyone of you that your language to yourself would probably make a sailor blush, using words coming out of your mouth that you should probably be ashamed to kiss your mother with.


So whatever the bad language you are using to talk to and about yourself needs to change. Encourage yourself. Be nice to yourself. You have the choice to actually use words that empower you, instead of the opposite. (The key word here is choice)




Step 4: Raise your barrier to your critics.


Do you have a friend, parent, child, husband, wife, boss, etc. who criticizes just about everything you do?


Two words: avoid them.


You will have 2 types of people in your life.


The 1st group will criticize you and pi$$ all over your dreams because they care about you, love and want the best for you i.e. not getting hurt, not wasting your time or money (even though they may have never tried what you want to do themselves, they just heard about this from a friend of a friend of a friend, who heard it from his local plaster in the pub, and he is giving his 2 pence worth of advice on a matter he knows nothing about... like MLM businesses for example.


The 2nd type just want to pi$$ over your dreams and ambitions because they know if you go out and achieve the things you want it will prove to them they are not where they could or should be in life and hence they want to keep you on their level playing field. Stay away from critics.




Step 5: Evaluate yourself first.


If you suffer from low self-esteem you may rely way too much on the judgments and opinions of other people, how many likes you got on your social media post, never confident in and of yourself about anything you say, think or do.


The problem is those “other people” may not have your best interests at heart and their judgments may be flawed or just plain full of $hit. So start with your own evaluation first and don’t let other people’s assessment always trump yours. Let this be your guiding quote to see you through life,

"In order for you to hurt me I must first value your opinion"

If you don’t value it more than your own then it can’t hurt you.


Is any of this easy? Hell no. If it was easy, everyone would be walking around with a great sense of confidence and swagger. But also know what is easy to do is also easy not to do. So the question you will be asking yourself right now is,


Can I do it?


Of course you can. Pick out any one of the steps and start working on it until you see some progress. Do something every single day.


Listen, I am 41 and will probably live to the age of 80, so I still have another 39 years to go!! So you can see there is no need to rush, take your time but do not give up.


Then take another step and before you know it you will be King Confidence or Queen Self-reliance and won’t it feel good!


If you have people in your life or business that could benefit from this simple message then pay it forward and share it with them too so we can help the world one person at a time become confident and stop playing 2nd best to their true potential.


Kind regards


Shiraz from Sm3empowerment



Bruce Lee???s Top 7 Fundamentals for Getting Your Life in Shape

Posted on 13 September, 2016 at 7:00 Comments comments (0)

If you haven’t been living under a rock for the last 30 years I’m pretty sure you know who Bruce Lee was. 


If you have, then you may be interested to know that Lee was a very famous martial artist and actor who sparked the first big interest of Chinese martial arts in the West in the 60’s and 70’s.


But besides being an awesome fighter and iconic figure Lee also had some very useful things to say about life.


Here are 7 of my favourite fundamentals from Bruce Lee.


1. What are you really thinking about today?


“As you think, so shall you become.”


Perhaps the most basic statement of how we work. Think about what you are thinking today. What do those thoughts say about you? About your life? And how well do they really match your plans for your life and your image of yourself?


It’s easy to forget about this simple statement in everyday life. It’s easy to be quite incongruent with what you think on an ordinary day compared to how you view yourself and your goals. A simple external reminder such as a post-it with this quote can be helpful to keep you and your thoughts on the right track. An brilliant and beautiful expansion on this thought can be found in James Allen’s As a man thinketh (that can be downloaded for free here).


2. Simplify.


“It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.”


“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.”


If you want to improve your life then it’s tempting to want to add more. One problem with this may be that you don’t really have the time or energy to do more though. And so your efforts to improve become short-lived.


Adding more and more just creates more stress and anxiety. Removing clutter and activities, tasks and thoughts that are not so important frees up time and energy for you to do more of what you really want to do. And as the clutter in your outer world decreases the clutter in your inner world also has a tendency to decrease. This has the added benefit of making it easier to actually enjoy whatever you are doing even more while you are doing it.


Adding more thoughts and thinking things over for the 111:th time may create a sense of security. It’s also a good way to procrastinate and to avoid taking that leap you know you should take. And the more you think, the harder it gets to act. Perhaps because you want to keep that comforting sense of security and avoid the risk of wrecking that feeling.


Thinking has its place. It can help you plan a somewhat realistic route to your goal and help you avoid future pitfalls. Overthinking is however just a habit that will help you waste a lot of time. It’s more useful to replace that habit with the habit of just doing it.


3. Learn about yourself in interactions.


“To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person.”


The one person that is the hardest to get to really know may be yourself. Studying yourself while you are alone may result in some insights. But it’s also likely to produce a lot of made up thought loops and doubts in your mind. A good way to really learn more about yourself is study yourself in interactions with other people. How people react and act in these interaction can over time teach you a lot. And what you think and how you react can perhaps teach you even more.


What you see, feel and hear in other people may be a reflection of you. The things you learn by thinking this way may not always be pleasant, but they can be enlightening. They help you to see yourself and also how you may be fooling yourself. And these powerful insights can be very valuable for your personal growth. So, in interactions with others, try asking yourself: what is reflected?


4. Do not divide.


“Take no thought of who is right or wrong or who is better than. Be not for or against.”


This is a very useful and powerful thought. It is also one that obviously is hard to live by. Why? I believe it’s because the ego loves to divide and find ways to “add more” to itself. It want’s to feel better than someone else. Or more clever. Or prettier. Or cooler. Or wiser.


How can you overcome this way of thinking and feeling?


To me it seems to boil down to not identifying so much with your thoughts or feelings. That doesn’t mean that you stop thinking or feeling. It just means that you realize – and remember in your everyday life – that the thoughts and emotions are just things flowing through you.


You are not them though.


You are the consciousness observing them.


When you realize and remember this it enables you to control the thoughts and feelings instead of the other way around. It also enables you to not take your thoughts too seriously and actually laugh at them or ignore them when you feel that your ego is acting out. When you are not being so identified these things you become more inclined to include things, thoughts and people instead of excluding them. This creates a lot of inner and outer freedom and stillness. Instead of fear, a need to divide your world and a search for conflicts.


To learn more about this I would recommend Eckhart Tolle’s books and signing up for the 10 free and excellent webcasts – available both in video and audio form – that he’s doing with Oprah right now.


5. Avoid a dependency on validation from others.


“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”


“Showing off is the fool’s idea of glory.”


The ego wants to add because it thinks it’s not enough. One way of doing that is by craving validation from others. We want to feel smart, pretty, successful and so on. And the validation makes you feel good for a while. But soon you need a new fix.


And the problem with being dependent on validation from other people is that you let other people control how you feel. This creates a rollercoaster of emotion in your life.


To find more emotional stability and to take control of how you feel you need to get your validation from to a more consistent source. Yourself. You can replace the expectations and validation of others by setting your own expectations and by validating yourself.


And so you validate yourself by thinking about how awesome you are. You don’t sell yourself short. You appreciate how far you have come and the positive things you have done. You appreciate your own value in the world. You set goals and you achieve those goals. This builds confidence in yourself and in your abilities. These things will help you to build a habit of inner validation.


Now, showing off. Why do we do that? To get validation from others. However, this need for validation often shines through and that is why a thing like bragging seldom works. Instead of seeing the cool and successful person you are trying to project people just see the insecure and needy person looking for validation. And your bragging falls flat.


6. Be proactive.


“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.”


It’s easy to get locked into a reactive mindset. You just follow along with whatever is happening. You do what the people around you do. You react to whatever is going on.


And so you get lost in your circumstances. This way of thinking doesn’t feel too good. You tend to feel powerless and like you are just drifting along.


A more useful and pleasurable way of living is to be proactive. As Bruce says: to create opportunities despite the circumstances around you. This feels better and provides better results. But on the other hand it’s also more difficult. It’s easier to just drift along in the reactive stream of life. And if you want to be proactive then you may have to take the lead quite often. And that can be scary.


Still, living proactively is so much more rewarding and exciting.


7. Be you.


“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”


Just being yourself is a hard thing to do. You may do it sometimes. And other times you may forget or fall back into old thought patterns. Or you may imitate someone else.


And that comes through too. And it may work.


But I believe that being the real you will work better. Because there the genuine you is shining through. Without incongruency, mixed messages or perhaps a sort of phoniness. It’s you to 100%. It’s you with not only your words but you with your voice tonality and body language – which some say is over 90% of communication – on the same wavelength as your words. It’s you coming through on all channels of communication.


So I’m not saying: “yeah man, you should just be yourself because it’s the right thing to do etc.” I’m saying that I think being your authentic self – the one where you do little dividing, the one that needs little validation from others, the one where your ego is not running the show and trying to get something from someone – will give you better results and more satisfaction in your day to day life because you are in alignment with yourself. And because people really like genuine and people really like authenticity.

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What If You Fail?

Posted on 9 September, 2016 at 6:15 Comments comments (0)

You don’t have to have full-blown fear of failure to be concerned. When you start working on a new goal, it’s common sense to think that you may fail at it. In fact, unless your goal is not at all challenging, you most likely will fail, at least in some of the details.

So how do you handle failure when you are working on achieving a new goal? Well, it’s simple. Try your best to embrace it. Think of each failure as a lesson in the school of hard knocks. And when you graduate, boy, will you be smart.

Try not to take failure personally. Admittedly, that’s easier said than done. After all, you have chosen your goal because it is something you truly desire. You have focused on the goal and committed time, energy, and possibly money to reach it. Surely it’s hard not to take failure personally.

But by looking at a failure analytically, you can examine what went wrong and what went right, learn from the experience, decide what to keep and what to discard, and then move on. Failure is very instrumental in perfecting your strategy toward reaching your goal.

Many of the most successful people have failed in some measure, and many honor their failures as learning experiences and part of the training necessary to meet the goal. As Ellen DeGeneres said,

“When you take risks, you learn that there will be times when you succeed and times when you fail, and both are equally important.”

When you create your plan to reach your goal, recognize that you may fail at certain things. You can even temper your goal to accommodate the possibility of failure. If your goal starts out, “I want a job that pays me £100,000,” you may re-write it to say, “I want a job where I can contribute to the company, be challenged to develop high level skills, and have the potential of high income growth.”

By stating a goal that way, you identify other characteristics of the goal that have value than just the salary. That gives you more chances to succeed. It also gives you a chance to accomplish the goal over time. Getting the job is the first stage of success. Getting the salary that you want is a second, future stage of success.

Encountering failure is bound to hurt but don’t let it stop you. Learn from your errors. Claim the things that you got right. And whatever you do, don’t quit. Make necessary revisions to your plan and get back to work on your goal.

And never overlook the wisdom that you can from having failed.

“I have not failed,”

Thomas Edison said.

“I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work.”



15 Uplifting Quotes for Positive Vibes

Posted on 31 August, 2016 at 6:30 Comments comments (0)

Here are 15 quotes about positivity from well-known people

who have faced failure and success, who despite certain odds

and challenges stayed positive. Use their words to get you going

on your own good vibes:


1. “Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.”

— Helen Keller

2. "Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results."

— Willie Nelson

3. “Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose.”

— Lyndon B. Johnson

4. “In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision.”

— Dalai Lama

5. “I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter.”

— Walt Disney

6. "Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.”

— Zig Ziglar

7. “Pessimism leads to weakness, optimism to power.”

— William James

8. "You can't make positive choices for the rest of your life without an environment that makes those choices easy, natural, and enjoyable.”

— Deepak Chopra

9. "The thing that lies at the foundation of positive change, the way I see it, is service to a fellow human being.”

— Lee lacocca

10. "Positive thinking is more than just a tagline. It changes the way we behave. And I firmly believe that when I am positive, it not only makes me better, but it also makes those around me better.”

— Harvey Mackay

11. "In every day, there are 1,440 minutes. That means we have 1,440 daily opportunities to make a positive impact.”

— Les Brown

12. “I'm a very positive thinker, and I think that is what helps me the most in difficult moments.”

— Roger Federer

13. "Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier."

— Colin Powell

14. “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.”

— Winston Churchill

15. “Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so let us all be thankful.”

— Buddha


Hope you can take one and make it your affirmation for the day ;-)


Use it to empower your day.





Your Goals Should Make You Joyous

Posted on 29 August, 2016 at 5:35 Comments comments (0)

You want to know why some people never achieve their goals? Or why, once they’ve reached their goal, they aren’t really happy there? It’s sometimes because they’ve chosen the wrong goal.


Sometimes people put a lot of time and effort into reaching someone else’s goal. They break their neck to get into medical school because of family pressure. Or they choose a corporate career because their spouse wants financial security, when what they want is to be a social worker.


If you are going to take on the work of achieving an important goal, you should choose a goal that expresses your deepest passion. You should choose a goal that makes you joyous.


There are a couple of reasons for that. First of all, achieving a challenging goal takes a lot of commitment. Change is scary and actively seeking change is complicated. People often put obstacles in their own way to sabotage their efforts to achieve a goal.


It’s not unusual to set up a plan to meet a goal, and then to find yourself procrastinating while you are working on it. You may get distracted doing tasks that don’t lead to your goal. You may simply put off doing tasks that do lead to your goals. But at any rate, your actions don’t match your supposed intentions.


Those kinds of things happen even when you are fully committed. Imagine the gap between your actions and your stated intentions when your heart isn’t really in it. Working towards a challenging goal when you are divided about it will be an ordeal. And probably not a success.


In order to achieve a goal and embrace it once you’re there, you need to be fully committed. You can’t have hidden doubts or be only lukewarm in your enthusiasm. You need to be able to focus all your energy on achieving your goal.


The second reason that you should choose a goal that makes you joyous is that you are cheating yourself if you don’t. Spending time and energy going after something that doesn’t bring you joy is a waste of your life. If you are going to work hard and dedicate yourself to a challenging goal, the outcome should be a gift to you, not to someone else.


If it takes you a little time and exploration to find the goal that will bring you joy, don’t worry. The first step of your goal-setting plan may be to determine what brings you joy. Your goal can come later.


But your goal isn’t worth fighting for if it isn’t a goal that makes you joyous.

Increase Self-Belief??? 4 Things You Must Do

Posted on 17 August, 2016 at 11:00 Comments comments (0)

Self-belief in yourself is crucial, as it determines what you think you can and can’t do..right?


A lack of self-belief limits the things you do or even try to do. But if you start with the mindset of thinking ‘what’s the point’ or ‘you will only fail anyway’ then guess what happens? Yes it leads to poor results you were expecting.


Whereas if you have a strong self-belief in yourself you will be more empowered to take action and go on to produce better results.


In NLP there is a saying “Whether you think you can, or whether you think you can’t; you’ll be right”.


I think Henry Ford has a similar saying.


When you believe you can perform a task, you are more likely to succeed. And if you don’t get the result you were hoping for you will try again and again till you get it right.


Here are 4 things you must do to increase self-belief in YOU.


1) Be a Good Role Model to yourself to increase self-belief in you. Set the standard you want to live up to as an example first. Have a positive and encouraging attitude towards your life and everything you have, and everything you have achieved no matter how big or small. Work on nurturing this habit, a ‘can do attitude’. Once you do this your outer actions will naturally start to emulate your inner thoughts and beliefs.


2) Focus on the positives because in life we generally get more of what we focus on. Focus on how crap your life is and how your circumstances are crappier and you will get more of the same. Or you can focus on all the blessing you have that you probably take for granted (like having eyes to see with, clean water to drink, food to eat, a roof over your head, parents, children, your health, your body etc) and you will find you have a different outlook on the same life. Focus your attention on the positive behavior, instead of the negative, and you will get more of it. The choice of which one you choose is always down to you and as an automatic default setting we as humans are programmed to choose the negative. If we can focus attention on the positive first we can then deal with the negative behavior quickly and effectively. Become your own best friend and give yourself more positive feedback for the things you have done.


3) Being aware of your language is an important point. When you are talking to your best friend and they mess up you most likely show up with empathy and support, why? Because we can be very sensitive to things people say about us. BUT when we are talking to ourselves about the things we have messed up we probably say the kind of things that would probably make a sailor blush. We label ourselves as stupid, lazy, a failure, a complete dumba$ etc etc. Over time these labels start to be accepted as beliefs and get hardwired into our programming. Respond to your action and not yourself. “That was a stupid thing to do” rather than “you are so stupid”. And when you acknowledge the accomplishments of what you have achieved don’t just be flippant with your response of saying’ I’m the man/woman’, be specific on what you did that you are proud or happy with. Acknowledge the WHY.


4) Creating a compelling vision of your future will increase your self-belief by developing your vision that you can do.. what ever you set yourself to do. Sit down, close your eyes, and watch yourself on the screen of your mind behaving decisively, calmly and strongly. This powerful visualization exercise means that you can learn from yourself, how to be confident, have self-belief, and behave in ways which increases chances of success. Shakespeare said we are the play writers to our own lives. You are the director, the actor, the play writer. You have the remote control to the DVD player in your mind, you are in charge of what you see, what you hear and what you feel. By seeing yourself on your minds screen you will see yourself acting with the self-belief of any paid movie star. The more you do this, the more you will find yourself becoming like the confident character in the movies you watch.


Sincerely hope this content has been more useful than a chocolate fire guard, and if it has please feel free to share this with your friend and colleague.





Your Self-Discipline Is A Gift To Yourself

Posted on 15 June, 2016 at 4:35 Comments comments (0)

Working on achieving a goal can be a drag. It feels like an obligation sometimes, especially when there are enticing alternatives to how you spend your time and effort.

Suppose your goal is to lose 20 pounds. You start your diet and you diligently put in your time at the gym. Then there’s a birthday party in your family. A nice, big dinner. Ice cream and cake. Being true to your goal means taking it easy on the festivities – even passing up dessert all together. Resentment can begin to set in. Other people get to indulge.

Why don’t you?

Or suppose you have decided to start an online business. You know there is money to be made there. But it’s hard work. You need to learn about marketing, setting up a website, getting traffic and so much more. It takes a lot of time to get your business up and running so you are still working at your day job to pay the bills. You spend two hours a night on your online business. And then, when you get into work, the whole office is talking about Game of Thrones. You don’t have time to watch TV. And it makes you crabby.

Or your goal is to pay off your credit cards and get completely out of debt. You have a budget that forces you to cut back on spending. And you’re making progress. But then your sister shows up with a pair gorgeous boots. You want them. You really want them. But it would break your budget to buy them. Why does your sister always get everything she wants?

Sometimes working toward your goal feels like denial instead of like a joy. Take that for granted. But don’t stop working toward your goal.

The resentment you feel is momentary. It will come but it will go, too. Don’t let it stand in the way of your achievement.

The self-discipline you bring to achieving your goal is long-term. And the results are long-term, too. When the birthday party is over and the TV show has gone off the air, the changes that you are making will continue to add value to your life. The self-discipline that brings the long-term results is a gift you give yourself.

Anticipate those moments. Be prepared for them. If you know they’re coming, you will be able to handle them better.

And if at some point your self-discipline fails you, and you give in to the temptation you would otherwise avoid, acknowledge it to yourself. Forgive yourself and get back to your plan. Don’t let that small failure derail yourself from working on your goal. It’s like Lance Armstrong says,

“Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever.”

It may not always feel like it, when you are passing up treats and relaxation and nice belongings, but when it comes to achieving your goals and making your dreams come true, your self-discipline is a gift you give yourself.

Here's to your empowered life 



What If You Fail?

Posted on 14 June, 2016 at 4:30 Comments comments (0)

You don’t have to have full-blown fear of failure to be concerned. When you start working on a new goal, it’s common sense to think that you may fail at it. In fact, unless your goal is not at all challenging, you most likely will fail, at least in some of the details.


So how do you handle failure when you are working on achieving a new goal? Well, it’s simple. Try your best to embrace it. Think of each failure as a lesson in the school of hard knocks. And when you graduate, boy, will you be smart.


Try not to take failure personally. Admittedly, that’s easier said than done. After all, you have chosen your goal because it is something you truly desire. You have focused on the goal and committed time, energy, and possibly money to reach it. Surely it’s hard not to take failure personally.


But by looking at a failure analytically, you can examine what went wrong and what went right, learn from the experience, decide what to keep and what to discard, and then move on. Failure is very instrumental in perfecting your strategy toward reaching your goal.


Many of the most successful people have failed in some measure, and many honor their failures as learning experiences and part of the training necessary to meet the goal.


As Ellen DeGeneres said,


“When you take risks, you learn that there will be times when you succeed and times when you fail, and both are equally important.”

When you create your plan to reach your goal, recognize that you may fail at certain things. You can even temper your goal to accommodate the possibility of failure. If your goal starts out, “I want a job that pays me £100,000,” you may re-write it to say, “I want a job where I can contribute to the company, be challenged to develop high level skills, and have the potential of high income growth.”


By stating a goal that way, you identify other characteristics of the goal that have value than just the salary. That gives you more chances to succeed. It also gives you a chance to accomplish the goal over time. Getting the job is the first stage of success. Getting the salary that you want is a second, future stage of success.


Encountering failure is bound to hurt but don’t let it stop you. Learn from your errors. Claim the things that you got right. And whatever you do, don’t quit. Make necessary revisions to your plan and get back to work on your goal.


And never overlook the wisdom that you can from having failed.


“I have not failed,”

Thomas Edison said.


“I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work.”

If You Put Garbage In You Can Only Get Garbage Out

Posted on 13 June, 2016 at 8:00 Comments comments (0)

You’ve probably heard the expression “garbage in, garbage out.” The expression relates to computer programming. If your inputs are garbage, your output will be garbage, too.


A similar concept applies more generally in life. If you put garbage in, you’ll get garbage out.


Are you putting garbage in? Are the inputs into your body, mind and spirit garbage or are they objects of value? Take a look at your friends and family, your activities and your concerns. Do they add value to your life or do they diminish it? Do they lead you to your goal or away from it?


Your friends and family have a large influence over your life. What they concern themselves with rubs off on you. If you want to succeed at your goals, you need to surround yourself with goal-oriented achievers. Avoid people who would rather complain than change things, or would rather watch TV than accomplish a goal. They will have a negative effect on you.


Take time to read. Educating yourself, whether it is closely related to your goal or not, improves your mind and your future. Reading helps to expand your view of the world and your decision-making skills. Invest the time in reading. It’s a good input that yields good outputs.


How else do you spend your time? So much television programming consists of reality shows. On them, phony people create phony controversies in order to manipulate your emotions. Even the news has become a parade of shouting people who create controversy. The effect on the viewer is emotional turmoil and skewed perspectives on the issues. This is a bad input that will bring about bad output. Avoid it.


Are you active on social media? Social media can be a good input or a bad one, depending on how you use it. Staying in touch with friends, promoting your business, following political or social trends, and engaging with groups that share your interests can all be good inputs. But spending too much time on those activities throws your schedule out of balance.


Are you physically active? The physical and emotional benefits of exercise are well known. Even if your goal does not include fitness, it’s always a good idea to schedule a healthy amount of exercise into your life. Exercise has a beneficial impact on everything you do, including achieving your goals. It’s definitely a good input with a good output.


You want to see positive change in your life as a result of achieving a goal. Help that change along by paying attention to the inputs and outputs of your life. Be sure to include lots of good inputs to optimize your output.


Here's to your empowering week


(if you haven't already got your FREE copy of my PDF called the 5 traits you have to develop before you are ever going to be successful, then claim it right now my friend)



The Millionaire's Brain Review

Posted on 10 June, 2016 at 6:10 Comments comments (0)

It's been a while now since I've been looking for help in improving my career and life. Before I started  my own personal development coaching practise I'd been unhappy with my professional life. My main issue was the state of my job. I spent too much time at work which affected time spent with my family and friends.


On top of that, my job duties had increased over time but my salary has didn't. I felt mentally down and was struggling to think of ways I could improve the quality of my life. Something had to change otherwise I would be stuck in this predicament untill I retired, and that thought scared the shi...sorry life out of me.


When I came across The Millionaire's Brain Academy, I was in two minds. While I felt that the book could help me in my then present situation, I wasn't sure if I could get much help out of it as I would like.


But The Millionaire's Brain Academy seemed simple enough to digest and was more than affordable- at least compared to the hundreds or even thousands you might fork out for some sort of "get rich quick" talks or schemes you see advertised everywhere.


And cut to present day after spending some time with The Millionaire's Brain Academy, I am relieved to review that it is well worth the purchase!


As a whole, The Millionaire Brain Academy manual explores basic mind concepts that I have always found fascinating. Changing your actions, behaviors and thoughts might sound simple, but they are powerful tools to implement in your life.


I was particularly interested where they focus on training your brain to have a positive mindset towards money and wealth. Personally, money has always been hard to come by. And I realized that it was due to my negative feelings towards money. Fortunately, the book teaches you how to rewire your brain to have a positive mindset about money.


It really helps that the book explains the abilities of a person's brain and how it is programmed. I got to learn about neuroplasticity and how the brain can be changed and shaped throughout a person's life. Such information really instilled the confidence in me to make a list of goals and aim to achieve them.


Besides wealth, The Millionaire's Brain Academy also touches on other mental areas that is likely to affect you in life.


For instance, there is a chapter devoted to overcoming negativity and embracing positivity to overcome hardships. I'd like to point out that while such information might not be related to my main goal, I found it very helpful in evaluating myself and my life choices so far.


Personally, I found myself re-reading the pointers on removing negative influence and adding more positivity to my life. I realized from reading these chapters that I needed to surround myself more with people who share similar goals and hobbies.


Initially, I was always focused on work and had no time for socializing which affected me emotionally. I now get that making positive changes is indeed just as important as working hard.


Another aspect I liked was the exercises present throughout the chapters that enabled me to understand the written content. They do not take up much of your time and at most, all you need is a pen and paper to get it done!


Take a look for yourself right here my friend


If you like to apply what you've learnt, The Millionaire's Brain Academy also comes with a Brain Optimizer workbook for you to practice on yourself to get the most out of what you've been reading.


To be frank, I don't think I am the smartest cookie in the jar and I generally take a long time to learn things and get them right. I was not looking forward to opening the Brain Optimizer workbook! But I'm glad I eventually did as the exercises were not difficult. While I have not completed all of the exercises as of yet, I did the find the meditative techniques relaxing and emotionally satisfying.


The Money Code is another bonus content that comes with The Millionaire's Brain Academy. If you are more interested in achieving financial success, this report would be most beneficial to you. It serves as a worthy extension from The Millionaire's Brain Academy plus I found it cool how it teaches you to draw out ideas from the creative side of your mind.


You also receive some audio guidance known as The Millionaire Mindset Suite. I was recommended to listen to the audios consistently for at least four weeks. I initially found it tough to commit to such a schedule due to work so I listened to each session individually daily, which has been working well so far.


This is a unique aspect when I got The Millionaire's Brain Academy: Compared to most products today- you don't just get one wordy, measly book, you get the works! As I mentioned above, I had more options in my hand with a workbook, an audio guide and an additional report. I appreciate that TheMillionaire's Brain Academy book doesn't hold back, it gives the user a variety of stuff to work with!


I am very appreciative of what The Millionaire's Brain Academy is doing. I feel that the author Winter has put together a well thought out and informative book that can help just about the everyday Joe who want to financially prosper.


It certainly has helped in making me believe that you don't really have to work day and night to achieve wealth and prosperity in your life! And now that I'm taking control of my own destiny, the future has never looked better!

Open this link to see it for yourself 

Do You Have A Someday Mentality Verses Consistent Action Mentality?

Posted on 1 June, 2016 at 6:55 Comments comments (0)

As we approach the half way mark of the year News Years day seems like it was yesterday, doesn't it?


Do remember the goals you set yourself and how you visualized your 2016 to be?


Well how is it all working out for you my friend?


Are you still hoping and praying that your someday is just round the corner?


Someday when I have the money, the confidence, the time, the skills, when my ship sails in etc etc..

How many of those have you said in your life, and how many do you still say?


"Someday doesn't exist. Never has and never will.

There is no someday. There's only today.

Real superman don't leap over buildings in a single bound.

They take small, determined steps consistently over time."" target="_blank">Watch this short clip

 When tomorrow comes, it will be another today.


By the way, your ship's not coming in, it's already here, docked and waiting.


You already have the time, money, skill and confidence.


You already have everything you need to get everything you want.


The reason you can't see it is simply because you are looking in the wrong place.


You are looking at your life with a lottery players mentality. But have you ever wondered when you do see lottery winners how it's never people who are already successful, company CEO's etc? Because they don't play that game!


Success isn't some random accident with a someday, fingers crossed mentality. That is not how life works my friend.


William Wilberforce introduced bill after bill to the British Parliament to end slavery, only to have it rejected over and over again for 18 yrs (1788-1806). Then 3 days before his death in 1833 Parliament passed that bill, not just in Britain, but in other Parliamentary states too.


Three decades later and Abraham Lincoln went through the same obstacles.


Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.

- Abraham Lincoln

These were achieved by taking consistent action over a period of time, and not hoping someday it would happen.


So the question I have you is, are you taking the action you know you need to be taking that will get you to the finish line, or are you just blowing smoke up your a$$ so to speak?


Here's to your Empowering life



Tips for Defining Your Goal

Posted on 26 May, 2016 at 4:35 Comments comments (0)

I am going to use the KISS method (Keep it simple silly) in these Tips for Defining Your Goal, if that's OK with you, because I see far too many people over complicating this matter which leads to overwhelm and then procrastination.


The first step in reaching your goal is to define it. A well-defined goal is a real target and you will be able to aim for it. On the other hand, if you don’t define your goal well, you won’t be able to plan for it, work towards it, or even know when you’ve gotten there.


It is essential that your goal reflect your own deepest desires. Don’t set the goal that you think you should set. Set the goal that expresses your real ambitions. If it takes you some time to determine what your real ambitions are, spend that time before you start to work on your goal.


Your goal should be challenging but realistic. If you are one of the many people whose goal is to lose weight, set an optimistic but realistic weight goal with a deadline that can be attained with work and dedication. If your goal is too ambitious, you will be discouraged from the start.


When you set your goal, decide on a deadline for it, too. A deadline will make a goal real. It takes it from the realm of “maybe someday” and puts in the realm of “starting now.” Like the goal itself, your deadline should be optimistic but realistic. You want to encourage yourself to act with intention, but you don’t want to ambush yourself by making something harder than it has to be.


Once you have your deadline, set up a plan. Decide when, how and where you will be working on a goal. Schedule times during the week when you will work on your goal. If your goal is to lose weight and get in shape, for example, schedule times for the gym. And don’t forget to schedule time to plan your menus, shop and prepare your food for the week.


If you have an ambitious goal, you may want to set up intermediate goals, too. The dieter could set a goal of losing six to eight pounds a month, for example. That monthly goal should have a deadline and a plan. And when you reach each intermediate goal, reward yourself.


When you start working on a goal, your plan should be optimistic but realistic. Accept that there will be setbacks along the way but decide in advance not to let them stop you.


Remember that you are setting goals for your own benefit, not for your detriment. So every time that you choose working on your goal over another, easier activity, think of it as a gift to yourself. If you stick to your diet instead of joining in the office donut party, congratulate yourself. If you stay home to study for your master’s degree instead of going out with friends, let that boost your motivation. If you use your paycheck to pay off your credit card bills instead of buying shoes, you have given yourself a gift. Don’t feel deprived over those decisions. Congratulate yourself for them.


And always keep in mind that you have the power to achieve your goals and make your dreams come true. By systematically choosing, planning, setting deadlines and valuing your goals, you will succeed.


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